Tag: sexual assault

How to Fix Toxic or Abusive Relationships

How to Fix Toxic or Abusive Relationships

Can you fix a toxic relationship? How about an abusive one? If you’re in an abusive relationship, the first step is to ask yourself if you really want to fix your relationship. An abusive partner does not respect you. They think that they are entitled to control your existence and your experience as a human. … Continue reading How to Fix Toxic or Abusive Relationships

Sexual Trauma and Queer Rights

Sexual Trauma and Queer Rights

How sexual trauma can affect sexual attraction and orientation, and the implications for queer fights and queer rights. A lot of times when someone comes out of the closet as queer, ignorant people assume that it’s because they’ve experienced sexual trauma. They figure, someone must have hurt this person to make them no longer want … Continue reading Sexual Trauma and Queer Rights

How Should a Community Respond to Abuse?

How Should a Community Respond to Abuse?

So, what *should* a community do when one of their members has been accused of abuse? At its conception, the community needs to make a choice: Is their policy “believe victims, eject abusers” ? That’s a valid approach. It means that people will lose out on a communal social resource for misunderstandings, co-dependent toxic dynamics, … Continue reading How Should a Community Respond to Abuse?

I Never Liked Him, Anyway

I Never Liked Him, Anyway

“So-and-so is the latest person to be accused of sexual assault/harassment/abuse.” “Gross, I never liked him anyway.” That’s honestly zero percent helpful, guys. It doesn’t matter one teeny tiny bit whether or not you liked this dude who has been accused of sexual assault. Society likes this dude, or the media does, or he has … Continue reading I Never Liked Him, Anyway

Don’t Forget to Fight Racism

Don’t Forget to Fight Racism

I’m not sure how best to phrase this, but: While we’re focusing on sexual assault and trauma and harassment as survivors, please remember to spare some time and effort to fight against racism this week. I know we’re overwhelmed and experiencing PTSD and flashbacks and trauma and exhaustion. I know it. Believe me. Just, if … Continue reading Don’t Forget to Fight Racism

Intersectionality and Sexual Assault

Intersectionality and Sexual Assault

Sometimes it’s tough for our minds to care very deeply about a lot of things at the same time. Especially with regards to politics and social outrage, we get overwhelmed by what the media is currently focusing on. This makes TOTAL SENSE and is not something to feel guilty about, but it’s worth remembering the … Continue reading Intersectionality and Sexual Assault