Over the next three days, I'll be sharing a quick breakdown of 3 queer identities that are less commonly known: the A's. Asexual, aromantic, agender. So, LGBTQIA. Many of these are pretty straight forward (though expect some more yelling about the word "queer" as the month goes on), but the A gets a little dicey. … Continue reading Asexuality 101
Is Bisexuality Transphobic?
Is bisexuality inherently transphobic by denying non-binary genders? Short answer: no. Long answer: The reason this question exists starts with the history of bisexuality as an identity (as opposed to as a practice). When Alfred Kinsey interviewed thousands of American adults and created the Kinsey scale in the 1940s, people with Kinsey scores … Continue reading Is Bisexuality Transphobic?
How Should a Community Respond to Abuse?
So, what *should* a community do when one of their members has been accused of abuse? At its conception, the community needs to make a choice: Is their policy “believe victims, eject abusers” ? That’s a valid approach. It means that people will lose out on a communal social resource for misunderstandings, co-dependent toxic dynamics, … Continue reading How Should a Community Respond to Abuse?
Sex is Risky (But Good!)
Being sex positive does not mean teaching that sex isn’t risky. I got some confused and upset private responses* to last week’s blog post, specifically to the part where I said that partnered sex is a risky and complicated activity, and is an activity for adults. The folks who were concerned felt like calling … Continue reading Sex is Risky (But Good!)
Vulva Facts: AMA
I'm going to talk about vulvas. If you don't like to think about those, don't read this post. But if you have a vulva, or regularly interact with one, you should probably work to become comfortable thinking about them. They're a body part just like any other, and sometimes they need care or consideration. … Continue reading Vulva Facts: AMA
Learning Spaces Cannot be Safe Spaces
One of my professors said something to me that I hated when I first heard it. He said, “learning spaces cannot be safe spaces.” I resisted that concept initially, because it seemed counterintuitive and unfair. I should always be able to ensure that my classroom, that the online groups where I moderate, that meetings with … Continue reading Learning Spaces Cannot be Safe Spaces