Tag: healthy relationships

Aromantic 101

Aromantic 101

Hi folks! Yesterday, we talked about asexuality, so today it must be time for Aromanticism! 2) Aromantic What does it mean to be aromantic? Well, remember that the prefix "a" means "not". So aromantic folks are not-romantic! Now, I don't mean that they're just super staid in their relationships, and hate flowers and candles. I … Continue reading Aromantic 101

Polyamorous Logistics!

Polyamorous Logistics!

Besides the emotional differences between monogamy and polyamory, there are some logistical differences. The big one is, of course, scheduling, but there’s also the possibility of having to restructure how you communicate, prioritize time and energy, care for your health, and show consideration and respect in intimate ways to more people than you’re used to. … Continue reading Polyamorous Logistics!

Productive Conversations

Productive Conversations

What is a productive conversation? A productive conversation is a conversation in which all members feel heard, they feel like their concerns or thoughts are validated (even if no one else agrees with them), and all members come out of it with a similar idea of the next step. It can be about something as … Continue reading Productive Conversations

Learn to Zoop! (argument de-escalation)

Learn to Zoop! (argument de-escalation)

Do you catch yourself getting into arguments frequently? Are you tired of getting all fired up and angry? Are you willing to do a little bit of work to keep a calm household? Check this out: Learn to “zoop”*! When two people get into an argument, it’s rarely an immediate explosion. Most arguments start with: … Continue reading Learn to Zoop! (argument de-escalation)

Choose Your Own Adventure – Relationship Edition

Choose Your Own Adventure – Relationship Edition

In my Submission 101 class over the weekend, one concept that people kept coming back to was that they wanted some bits or pieces of a typical kinky relationship, but not the other pieces. Three different people stayed after the class and loitered in corners until I was free, and they all asked essentially the … Continue reading Choose Your Own Adventure – Relationship Edition

It’s Time to Talk About Age Gaps

It’s Time to Talk About Age Gaps

You guys, it’s time to talk about large age gaps in relationships. Specifically, when men in their 30s and 40s date woman* in their late teens and early 20s.  Let's break down why it happens, why it can be dangerous, and best practices, if you do end up in a relationship like that. I do, … Continue reading It’s Time to Talk About Age Gaps

Learning Communication – Part II

Learning Communication – Part II

So you want to be a better communicator! What does that even mean?   Part II - the tough stuff. Here are some tougher, but possibly more productive steps you can take to be a better communicator.   Take more time before speaking Most conversations happen really quickly – we hear something, we formulate our … Continue reading Learning Communication – Part II