Tag: community building

Abusers with Social Capital: What Happens?

Abusers with Social Capital: What Happens?

cw: abuse   What happens when your abuser has more social capital than you do?   Something that I see often is consent-driven communities that have an abuser problem. Why does this happen? Because the community is hierarchy based (as all communities are), and doesn’t have a way to address, let alone remove, abusers with … Continue reading Abusers with Social Capital: What Happens?

Try saying “thank you” instead of “I’m sorry”

Try saying “thank you” instead of “I’m sorry”

What can a favor look like? Maybe you didn’t plan your day out very well, and you didn’t leave yourself time to grocery shop, so someone else does that shopping for you. Or you’re running late for work, so your partner makes you breakfast and lunch. Or your friend is willing to reschedule quality time, … Continue reading Try saying “thank you” instead of “I’m sorry”

Responsible Authority and Leadership

Responsible Authority and Leadership

If you are a leader or administrator or parent or dominant or figure of authority in any way, listen up.   You need to learn when sticking to your guns is a bad idea.   If you make a decision/ take a decisive action/ implement a policy/ endorse a person or situation, and there’s backlash, … Continue reading Responsible Authority and Leadership

What do You Owe Others?

What do You Owe Others?

What do you owe other people? Well, it depends on who they are. Generally, I’m of the opinion that you don’t owe anyone anything. “Owe” specifically indicates an obligation – something that you have to do, or it would be unfair and not okay for you to not-do. There are *very* few circumstances where I … Continue reading What do You Owe Others?