Tag: being a good person

No Rewards for the Bare Minimum

No Rewards for the Bare Minimum

On a weekend trip to Boston, several years ago, I met a cute guy at a club. We danced and made out, and at the end of the night we made plans to meet up at his place for a pancake breakfast the next morning. After a horrible trudge through the snow in sneakers, and … Continue reading No Rewards for the Bare Minimum

When NOT to Use Singular They

When NOT to Use Singular They

Something I occasionally see is cis people using the singular "they" to avoid correctly gendering binary trans people. And that's not okay. Singular "they" is a valid, grammatically correct pronoun to use for non-binary individuals who want to be called that. People who use they/them pronouns are usually people who don't identify as men or … Continue reading When NOT to Use Singular They

Who You Are in “Real Life”

Who You Are in “Real Life”

I was speaking with a friend the other week, and asked if I could take a moment to vent about another, non-present friend. “She’s so cold and rude to me,” I complained. “Whenever she screws up, she makes excuses for how it wasn’t her fault, or gets angry that I brought up the thing she … Continue reading Who You Are in “Real Life”

Responsible Authority and Leadership

Responsible Authority and Leadership

If you are a leader or administrator or parent or dominant or figure of authority in any way, listen up.   You need to learn when sticking to your guns is a bad idea.   If you make a decision/ take a decisive action/ implement a policy/ endorse a person or situation, and there’s backlash, … Continue reading Responsible Authority and Leadership