So, what *should* a community do when one of their members has been accused of abuse? At its conception, the community needs to make a choice: Is their policy “believe victims, eject abusers” ? That’s a valid approach. It means that people will lose out on a communal social resource for misunderstandings, co-dependent toxic dynamics, … Continue reading How Should a Community Respond to Abuse?
How to give a compliment to a stranger (without making them uncomfortable). If a man pays a woman a compliment, he usually uses it to a) sexualize her with the compliment, or b) open up a conversation with the compliment. If you want to pay a stranger a compliment, you need to make clear … Continue reading Comfortable Compliments