In my last few posts about respecting the pronouns of transgender people, I've used language like "if a friend changed their pronouns..." or "when speaking with a trans loved one..." when I've explained how important it is to use gender affirming pronouns. What I want to make clear is also this: if a transgender person … Continue reading Misgendering: Never Okay!
Something I occasionally see is cis people using the singular "they" to avoid correctly gendering binary trans people. And that's not okay. Singular "they" is a valid, grammatically correct pronoun to use for non-binary individuals who want to be called that. People who use they/them pronouns are usually people who don't identify as men or … Continue reading When NOT to Use Singular They
What are non-binary pronouns? Well, let’s start with binary pronouns. Binary pronouns are the pronouns that correspond with the binary genders of male and female. Women use she/her/hers, and men use he/him/his. She is very nice. It belongs to her. It is hers. He is very nice. It belongs to him. It is his. If … Continue reading Non-Binary Pronouns
I am a woman. When I wear a dress, I am wearing a woman’s dress. Not because the dress indicates that I am a woman, but because it’s my dress and I am a woman. If I decide that I’m not a fan of this dress anymore and I give it to a man, the … Continue reading Clothing Has No Gender
What does it mean to be Questioning? Well, we spend our whole lives asking external questions. From “wha dat?” as a baby, to “how do checks work?” as young adults, to “how will I afford this?” throughout adulthood (whomp whomp, millennial humor). From toddlerhood, we also start asking internal questions. “Why does my tummy hurt?” … Continue reading Q is for Questioning
Today we’re talking about the third meaning of A in LGBTQIA. 3) Agender! Since we already know what asexual and aromantic mean, I’m sure we can guess what agender means, right? The prefix “a” means “not”, so… not-gender! Someone who is agender doesn’t identify with any gender. No gender. None. Nope. Nada. Not any gender … Continue reading Agender 101
What are cissexism and heterosexism? Cissexism is when someone conflates genitals with gender, in any way. Sometimes the term is used interchangeably with transphobia, but it’s more commonly used to describe the specific circumstances where anyone makes the assumption that all members of one gender have a specific set of genitals. Heterosexism is when someone … Continue reading Cissexism & Heterosexism