In my last few posts about respecting the pronouns of transgender people, I've used language like "if a friend changed their pronouns..." or "when speaking with a trans loved one..." when I've explained how important it is to use gender affirming pronouns. What I want to make clear is also this: if a transgender person … Continue reading Misgendering: Never Okay!
Something I occasionally see is cis people using the singular "they" to avoid correctly gendering binary trans people. And that's not okay. Singular "they" is a valid, grammatically correct pronoun to use for non-binary individuals who want to be called that. People who use they/them pronouns are usually people who don't identify as men or … Continue reading When NOT to Use Singular They
What are non-binary pronouns? Well, let’s start with binary pronouns. Binary pronouns are the pronouns that correspond with the binary genders of male and female. Women use she/her/hers, and men use he/him/his. She is very nice. It belongs to her. It is hers. He is very nice. It belongs to him. It is his. If … Continue reading Non-Binary Pronouns
I am a woman. When I wear a dress, I am wearing a woman’s dress. Not because the dress indicates that I am a woman, but because it’s my dress and I am a woman. If I decide that I’m not a fan of this dress anymore and I give it to a man, the … Continue reading Clothing Has No Gender
What does it mean to be Questioning? Well, we spend our whole lives asking external questions. From “wha dat?” as a baby, to “how do checks work?” as young adults, to “how will I afford this?” throughout adulthood (whomp whomp, millennial humor). From toddlerhood, we also start asking internal questions. “Why does my tummy hurt?” … Continue reading Q is for Questioning
Today we’re talking about the third meaning of A in LGBTQIA. 3) Agender! Since we already know what asexual and aromantic mean, I’m sure we can guess what agender means, right? The prefix “a” means “not”, so… not-gender! Someone who is agender doesn’t identify with any gender. No gender. None. Nope. Nada. Not any gender … Continue reading Agender 101
Is bisexuality inherently transphobic by denying non-binary genders? Short answer: no. Long answer: The reason this question exists starts with the history of bisexuality as an identity (as opposed to as a practice). When Alfred Kinsey interviewed thousands of American adults and created the Kinsey scale in the 1940s, people with Kinsey scores … Continue reading Is Bisexuality Transphobic?