Besides the emotional differences between monogamy and polyamory, there are some logistical differences. The big one is, of course, scheduling, but there’s also the possibility of having to restructure how you communicate, prioritize time and energy, care for your health, and show consideration and respect in intimate ways to more people than you’re used to. … Continue reading Polyamorous Logistics!
Polyam Motivation! Why Open Up?
I tend to find that people come to polyamory in one of two ways. One, they’re in an existing dyad, and one or both partners decide together that their relationship will be improved by opening it up, or that they will both be happier/living more ethically in a non-monogamous relationship. Two, someone finds out about … Continue reading Polyam Motivation! Why Open Up?
The next several posts will be about polyamory, so today we get a quick primer. Monogamy is the idea that one person should or will fulfill all of your romantic and sexual needs (or at least, that you should only be having sex and romantic connections with one person). There’s nothing inherently wrong with … Continue reading Polyamory Primer
National Coming Out Day
It’s National Coming Out Day. I am fairly open about my identity, but I think it’s worth being very clear sometimes. I am queer. I started out identifying as a lesbian in 7th grade, then realized in 11th grade that I was bisexual. I have since identified as a lesbian again, as pansexual, and finally as queer. … Continue reading National Coming Out Day
Some thoughts on using “relationship communism” to describe my version of polyamory: While the concept of “relationship anarchy” is appealing to me (each person makes their own decisions about who they want to or can date, usually influenced by the desires and needs of their other partners, but without a set hierarchy or assumed rules … Continue reading Relationship Communism