Tag: healthy relationships

It’s Time to Talk About Age Gaps

It’s Time to Talk About Age Gaps

You guys, it’s time to talk about large age gaps in relationships. Specifically, when men in their 30s and 40s date woman* in their late teens and early 20s.  Let's break down why it happens, why it can be dangerous, and best practices, if you do end up in a relationship like that. I do, … Continue reading It’s Time to Talk About Age Gaps

Learning Communication – Part II

Learning Communication – Part II

So you want to be a better communicator! What does that even mean?   Part II - the tough stuff. Here are some tougher, but possibly more productive steps you can take to be a better communicator.   Take more time before speaking Most conversations happen really quickly – we hear something, we formulate our … Continue reading Learning Communication – Part II

Compromises! Or, the Thumb Trick

Compromises! Or, the Thumb Trick

  Sometimes, we indicate preference because we feel strongly about a thing. And sometimes we indicate preference, but we don’t care *that* much. How can we communicate this?   I wrote last week about respecting and appreciating boundaries. For thanking people when they tell you what they want and need, because it will make your … Continue reading Compromises! Or, the Thumb Trick

Appreciating Boundaries

Appreciating Boundaries

Happy Friday! Today’s post bridges the gap between my series on consent and an upcoming series on communication.   Quick thought today:   when someone sets a boundary, thank them.   When interacting with another person in a social setting, one goal might be that everyone involved be happy and comfortable. You don’t want anyone to … Continue reading Appreciating Boundaries

It’s Not Your Job to Fix Men

It’s Not Your Job to Fix Men

“It’s not your job to fix men” doesn’t mean “men don’t deserve support and care”. Men can have injuries. Men can be stressed from work. They can struggle with mental illness, or be overwhelmed by social changes, or feel angry and hurt. They can be confused and upset. Men can be depressed or anxious, and … Continue reading It’s Not Your Job to Fix Men

You don’t have to love my mental illness

You don’t have to love my mental illness

Today I’m thinking about this: It’s possible to love someone, hugely and entirely, and not love every single thing about them. We see romantic declarations in media where a woman feels insecure about herself and lists off a few flaws, and her romantic interest insists that he loves ALL of her, including her flaws, because … Continue reading You don’t have to love my mental illness