Author: galiagodel
A brief interlude about vaginal discharge. Most vaginas produce discharge. The vagina is a mucous membrane, and in order to stay clean and damp, constantly produces tiny amounts of clear or white-ish discharge. It’s one of the reason that women’s underpants have a second layer of fabric in the crotch – it catches that … Continue reading Vagina Snot
What are we asking for men to do when they hear another man say something inappropriate? Say “hey, whoah, that’s not cool,” IN THE MOMENT. Don’t come up to women afterwards and say “man, that was weird, wasn’t it?” or “I’m so sorry he said that, I could tell it made you uncomfortable,” or … Continue reading What Should Men Do?
Being sex positive does not mean teaching that sex isn’t risky. I got some confused and upset private responses* to last week’s blog post, specifically to the part where I said that partnered sex is a risky and complicated activity, and is an activity for adults. The folks who were concerned felt like calling … Continue reading Sex is Risky (But Good!)
Something that I sometimes hear from sex positive educators and adults is “if people aren’t comfortable talking about sex, they shouldn’t be having it.” And like, okay, that’s a really valid desire. I *also* want to make sure that everyone is communicating clearly and explicitly about everything, and especially something so risky and complicated as … Continue reading Negotiating Sex with Shy People
What can a favor look like? Maybe you didn’t plan your day out very well, and you didn’t leave yourself time to grocery shop, so someone else does that shopping for you. Or you’re running late for work, so your partner makes you breakfast and lunch. Or your friend is willing to reschedule quality time, … Continue reading Try saying “thank you” instead of “I’m sorry”
Someone asked me to write the pros and cons of masturbation. I’ll be doing that, plus I have a few thoughts about how we talk about masturbation. So, here we go! Pros of masturbation: It feels good It can reduce headaches and muscle tension It can reduce stress If you have an orgasm (which … Continue reading Masturbation: Pros & Cons
Today, I'm talking about kinks that mimic illegal or unethical acts. So content warning for discussions of pedophilia, rape, incest, and other stuff that is bad. . . . . . . . . . . . . . First, I'm going to define some kink terms and dynamics, for those who are unfamiliar: … Continue reading Consensual Kinks Aren’t Unethical
Men, you need to get a clue: stop messaging women who aren’t responding to you. Even if you’re being polite. Even if you’re being thoughtful and flattering. Even if your messages are about women’s talents and hard work and intelligence, and not just their appearances. If you’re shouting into the void, stop shouting. Women don’t … Continue reading Men, Stop Talking
Something doesn't have to be terrible for you to take steps to fix it. I have a backpack, and I frequently overfill it to the extent that I cause myself severe back pain. When I start cramping up between my shoulder blades, I remember that I can hoist up my bag and fasten it … Continue reading Fix the Small Problems
(CW for c*** and p****) Petition to allow “vulva” to be a sensual word. Not necessarily a sexual word. A vulva is a normal part of the anatomy, and we don’t need to sexualize it in all contexts. The vulva is something that can get hurt, or be painful. It can have medical … Continue reading The Sensual Vulva
Cerebral Sexuality 