Author: galiagodel
What is a productive conversation? A productive conversation is a conversation in which all members feel heard, they feel like their concerns or thoughts are validated (even if no one else agrees with them), and all members come out of it with a similar idea of the next step. It can be about something as … Continue reading Productive Conversations
Do you catch yourself getting into arguments frequently? Are you tired of getting all fired up and angry? Are you willing to do a little bit of work to keep a calm household? Check this out: Learn to “zoop”*! When two people get into an argument, it’s rarely an immediate explosion. Most arguments start with: … Continue reading Learn to Zoop! (argument de-escalation)
(mostly for kiddos aged 7-13, or so) If you’re not comfortable with your kid looking at pornographic images, that makes a lot of sense. Sexually explicit imagery is generally past the developmental level of younger kids, who are experiencing body curiosity and trying to catch up with their peers, not necessarily looking for sexual gratification. … Continue reading Talking to Kids About Porn
Whenever there is a story or a headline talking about something that “a man” or “men” have done, feminist-flagging dudes flock to respond: “that’s not a man! He may be a *male*, but real men do _____,” or “a man would never treat you that way – that’s a boy.” Y’all, you are being … Continue reading Men, not Males
Someone asked a great question about pornography and sex workers over the weekend, and I added that question to my queue. Then the New York Times published a really stupid piece on the same topic, and I decided now was a good time to talk about porn. Porn. A lot of people watch it. Not … Continue reading How to Ethically Consume Porn
In my Submission 101 class over the weekend, one concept that people kept coming back to was that they wanted some bits or pieces of a typical kinky relationship, but not the other pieces. Three different people stayed after the class and loitered in corners until I was free, and they all asked essentially the … Continue reading Choose Your Own Adventure – Relationship Edition
If you are a leader or administrator or parent or dominant or figure of authority in any way, listen up. You need to learn when sticking to your guns is a bad idea. If you make a decision/ take a decisive action/ implement a policy/ endorse a person or situation, and there’s backlash, … Continue reading Responsible Authority and Leadership
What do you owe other people? Well, it depends on who they are. Generally, I’m of the opinion that you don’t owe anyone anything. “Owe” specifically indicates an obligation – something that you have to do, or it would be unfair and not okay for you to not-do. There are *very* few circumstances where I … Continue reading What do You Owe Others?
There is a difference between an excuse and an explanation. An explanation is designed to give someone all of the facts, and lay out the cause for something. An excuse is designed to push the fault for that thing away from oneself. Make sure that you use explanations frequently, and excuses sparingly. … Continue reading Excuses and Explanations
Hey, cis dudes. Here are some fucked up things about the patriarchy and rape culture* that you might not realize: Women who don’t get cat-called or harassed feel ugly because of that lack. We know that attractive women get harassed all of the time, and that harassment is about power and objectification, and that … Continue reading Hey, cis dudes
Cerebral Sexuality 