Tag: relationships
Happy Friday! Today’s post bridges the gap between my series on consent and an upcoming series on communication. Quick thought today: when someone sets a boundary, thank them. When interacting with another person in a social setting, one goal might be that everyone involved be happy and comfortable. You don’t want anyone to … Continue reading Appreciating Boundaries
“It’s not your job to fix men” doesn’t mean “men don’t deserve support and care”. Men can have injuries. Men can be stressed from work. They can struggle with mental illness, or be overwhelmed by social changes, or feel angry and hurt. They can be confused and upset. Men can be depressed or anxious, and … Continue reading It’s Not Your Job to Fix Men
Enthusiastic versus Explicit Consent: When you first meet a sex partner, and you’re asking for clear and verbal consent, the last thing you want is a lackluster reply. “Can I go down on you?” “Uh, sure, I guess so.” That response is technically a “yes,” but it certainly doesn’t sound like a person who wants … Continue reading Enthusiastic versus Explicit Consent
So, this post is a bit of corollary to yesterday’s post, about asking for consent for platonic touch. There are two kinds of consent that I’ll talk about here: “yes means yes” consent and “no means no” consent. When we say that we strive for “yes means yes” consent in our relationships, what we mean … Continue reading “Yes Means Yes” Consent
Today I’m thinking about this: It’s possible to love someone, hugely and entirely, and not love every single thing about them. We see romantic declarations in media where a woman feels insecure about herself and lists off a few flaws, and her romantic interest insists that he loves ALL of her, including her flaws, because … Continue reading You don’t have to love my mental illness
Some thoughts on using “relationship communism” to describe my version of polyamory: While the concept of “relationship anarchy” is appealing to me (each person makes their own decisions about who they want to or can date, usually influenced by the desires and needs of their other partners, but without a set hierarchy or assumed rules … Continue reading Relationship Communism
Cerebral Sexuality 