Author: galiagodel
Web developers, other people creating account registration forms, people gathering personal data for other reasons like doctor’s offices, etc: Are you asking people to supply their gender? If you don’t need that information, don’t ask for it. Don’t worry that “most sites collect that information” – if you’re not planning to sell peoples’ info … Continue reading Gender Queries
Enthusiastic versus Explicit Consent: When you first meet a sex partner, and you’re asking for clear and verbal consent, the last thing you want is a lackluster reply. “Can I go down on you?” “Uh, sure, I guess so.” That response is technically a “yes,” but it certainly doesn’t sound like a person who wants … Continue reading Enthusiastic versus Explicit Consent
So, this post is a bit of corollary to yesterday’s post, about asking for consent for platonic touch. There are two kinds of consent that I’ll talk about here: “yes means yes” consent and “no means no” consent. When we say that we strive for “yes means yes” consent in our relationships, what we mean … Continue reading “Yes Means Yes” Consent
This is an addendum on the previous post, on Platonic Consent: So, something we/I need to remember is that the model of consent culture that I work to promote is still unusual. It’s really useful in a number of settings – sex, working with children, massage/body work, working with people with intellectual disabilities/reduced cognitive … Continue reading Addendum: for actors
I really appreciate knowing that my friend group is on the ball when it comes to sexual consent. Y’all understand that sexual consent is like FRIES – Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic*, and Specific. What I notice a little less frequently is folks checking in about platonic touching. Here is what I mean by that: … Continue reading Platonic Consent
Hey! I know a lot of folks struggle with leaving messages on answering machines, and with writing emails, so I thought I’d share a really easy and adaptable template that I came up with! -Introduce yourself, and give some context as to why that person should know you or will know you. -Explain some background … Continue reading Message and Email Scripts
Something many white people don’t understand is the desire by black people to spend their money in black-owned businesses. It looks insular and unwelcoming. “Why do you care if the person who owns the shop is black?” we wonder. “You need to buy a thing, buy it in the best place to get it, right?” … Continue reading Black-Owned Businesses
Friends who work in a location with a bathroom for customers/clients, do me a favor. Ask your manager or facility service person to change bathroom signs that say “feminine hygiene” to “menstrual products”. There are two reasons for this: One, “feminine hygiene” implies that having your period is gross. That people who get periods are … Continue reading Menstrual Products
Political action! You may have heard that the horrifying tax bill passed in the Senate. This is true. However, remember your lessons from Schoolhouse Rock and note that this bill is NOT YET A LAW. The version that the Senate passed is different from the version that the House passed, so now they have to … Continue reading Fight the Tax Bill
Today I’m thinking about this: It’s possible to love someone, hugely and entirely, and not love every single thing about them. We see romantic declarations in media where a woman feels insecure about herself and lists off a few flaws, and her romantic interest insists that he loves ALL of her, including her flaws, because … Continue reading You don’t have to love my mental illness
Cerebral Sexuality 